For Us, Our Kids and Our Spouses
Have you ever had a day where you’re surrounded by people—little ones tugging at you, teens asking for rides, a spouse needing a quick answer—and yet you feel completely alone?
You’re not alone in that feeling.
One of our deepest human needs is to feel connected and understood. And that’s not just true for us as moms—it’s true for our kids and spouses, too.
The Heart Behind the Chaos
The cornerstone of the family is the heart of the family. It is up to you to demonstrate love and acceptance; connection. When we don’t find acceptance and connection it hurts. When we successfully demonstrate connection, we provide the security and love that builds stronger character and resilience in our children.
Life with a family can get loud and fast. Schedules, sports, homework, church, meals, and the never-ending pile of laundry swirl around us. But underneath the noise, our hearts—and the hearts of our children and even our spouses—are quietly asking:
“Do you see me? Do you hear me? Do I matter to you?”
When we’re disconnected, correction feels harsh. Instructions feel like nagging. And emotions—ours and theirs—run high.
But when we slow down and make space for connection, everything changes.
What Does Connection Look Like?
Connection isn’t always about grand moments. It’s often found in the little things:
- Sitting beside your child at bedtime and asking about their day
- Looking them in the eyes when they talk—even if it’s about Minecraft or glitter glue or sports
- Taking five deep breaths together when things get tense
- Saying, “I see you’re upset, and I’m here for you,” instead of jumping straight to your topic (discipline, your own bad day, etc.)
- Texting your teen something encouraging in the middle of their day
- Laughing over a silly meme with your spouse
- Creating a 10-minute “family unplugged time” in the evening—no screens, just presence
These simple acts build trust. They tell your child and spouse, “You matter to me.”
Even shared silence can be a form of connection. Sitting side by side while folding laundry or listening to music in the car can create a peaceful space where hearts feel safe and seen.
Moms Need Connection Too
It’s easy to pour out for everyone else and forget that our cups need filling, too.
If no one has reminded you today: You matter. Your heart matters. Your needs matter. God sees you in every unnoticed act of love and sacrifice.
Make space to be understood. Maybe that means:
- A coffee chat with a friend who “gets it”
- Journaling your prayers and thoughts
- Reading a book that nourishes your soul
- Asking your spouse for 15 minutes to talk—without distractions
- Sitting in silence with God, letting yourself be held
When your soul feels seen, you can reflect that back to your family with grace and peace.
The Spiritual Layer
Jesus modeled perfect connection. He saw the woman at the well, noticed Zacchaeus in a tree, and felt the touch of a woman reaching for healing in a crowd. He didn’t just perform miracles—He noticed people.
And He notices you.
When we draw near to Him, we’re reminded that we are never truly alone. He knows us fully and loves us completely. That truth is a steady foundation for all our relationships.
A Challenge for the Week:
Pick one small moment each day this week to intentionally connect—with your child, your spouse, a friend, or with God. Just one moment. Let it be simple and genuine.
And as you do, remind yourself:
You are not just a mom, wife, friend or co-worker
You are a safe place for others to find connection
A mirror of God’s love
A soul worthy of being seen
Amber has a BA in Psychology and a Masters Degree in Human Resources. She spent 9 years working in youth and multi-generational ministry where she focused on making faith fun. Her book, The Beginner’s Guide to God, is for anyone wondering how to have a relationship with God. She is the author of the blog AuburnRaven – Balancing Faith, Family & Fun. She has a passion for introducing people to God’s love and biblically equipping parents and teachers so children can grow in faith. Her journey, tips and lessons can be found on her blog www.AuburnRaven.com. You can connect with her on Pinterest, Instagram and Facebook.
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